With so many new Moms (and an brother-in-law who’s still a Kid!!!) around me … Questions about good parenthood are hard to avoid… But to me what makes a Good Parent is when they decide to have more than one kid …. 😛 ….
The joys of Sibling are known only to those who have fought and made up :D……
A single child is pampered… arrogant… unfriendly and many more adjectives …. but all for something he is not to be blamed…. a single child who has a pet Dog is friendly…. lovable… respects all other animals…. has someone to share his feelings….. but nobody to talk back to him….
A child with a well bonded sibling…. has all that is needed for a perfect life!
I have often seen siblings who are so far apart that perhaps even the word “blood ties” fail to cover up the distance in between… but then this isn’t a “Good Parenting” blog and I’m a “bit” inexperienced to comment about bringing up “good siblings”.. so I stick to the other side of the ground….
Siblings… Punching Bag…. Friend….. Enemy…. Trusted… Chugal Khor… Bitter Sweet Symphony… A bond that transpires all boundaries…. physical… geographical and metamorphical!
Coming to my home… Me and Didi have been the perfect examples of sisters in blood – gone apart- and then come to be sisters by heart ties…. there are days when i just hate her for being there and still not understanding me…. and then there are times when sitting before the web cam I wish I could just be on the other side having a pillow fight with her….
Sometimes 7 years is a long time to even share your boyfriend troubles.. and sometimes 7 years also is not an obstacle before those Ipill stories 😛 …. such are siblings…. and no matter what.. said or unsaid.. somewhere each story is conveyed and depending on the gravity of the issue.. the same is discussed or left in the “pending tray” waiting for “comfort days”….
In between all those years that we fight…. we cry.. we don’t talk…. there are nights when we siblings gossip so much.. or have a “few” drinks over which so much is blurted out that you regret the next morning :P…..
While there are apprehensions of the better half not getting along….. we siblings… have our way of making sure that comfort prevails…
While there are outbursts with folks being biased and taking sides…. there are equal stories of covering ups…. and while there are screams of wardrobe hi jacks… there are secret gifts which are given under the garb of “ego” :p….
While there are tiffs.. with the younger one striving to prove he/she has grown up… there are times when the “to be pampered” feeling strives so strong… that the younger one refuses to grow up….
While there are “you never understood me” syndromes…. phases… there are times of recollection of memories when each other were the world… of a childhood breezed by too fast….
Stories of fist fights…. hair pulling episodes that still reflect a baldness 😛 …. injury marks…. have a much greater positive impact on the bond than apparent… and then one day when you just think that you are alone… a warm hug from behind… a shoulder tug…. or a mere pat.. makes you realise that there’s someone wise who invented the words “Blood is thicker than water” :P….
Saving up seats in the bus… saving from school bullies…. yet making sure that there awaits a good scolding for the other one….
Amidst all leg pulling.. there’s a tugging of heart that follows…. when you see the other one sleeping at night…. and then no matter how much u fought over the razai…. u pull it close to him/her…. tuck him/her in…. and say a silent prayer…. thanking God for making siblings and giving your parents the wisdom to make your greatest gift come true!!!
I miss you didi…. and Happy Sister’s Day… Nobody is more lucky than me! :@